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The 3-Minute Coach

January 6, 2003, Issue #47
Feelin' Goooood

Welcome to The 3-Minute Coach

Happy 2003! It's hard to believe that the holidays are all past us and it's time to roll up our sleeves and get back to work. I'm finally ready to do that and hope you are too!

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Food for Thought

" There are no traffic jams on the Extra Mile." --- Roger Staubach, NFL Hall of Fame

Keep It Simple

Boost Your Career

From Jane Alexander's "The Five Minute Healer"

If you feel your career needs a general injection of life and energy, try arranging your desk this way. This is the basic template for all work spaces and will help you, whatever your work or your problem.

Place your desk so you sit with your back to a solid wall with a good view of the door and the window.
A desk lamp on one side helps focus your attention. Place it in the top left-hand corner to improve your finances.
Fresh cut flowers stimulate mental activity and cleanse the atmosphere.
Put your telephone on the right to make the people you call more helpful. If you are left-handed, keep your address book on your right to gain a similar effect.
Keep essential reference books on your left-hand side (the knowledge area).
If your work is creative, have a rounded desk. If your work involves figures or is very precise, a rectangular desk is better but ideally still with rounded corners.
Try to use a rectangular briefcase or handbag to make you more inclined to complete projects.
Your computer should be centered at the back of your desk. This area governs fame and recognition. Behind it, put something on the wall to remind you what you want to achieve - a photograph, newspaper cutting, or a collage of work goals.
Place something on the left-hand side to remind you of the spiritual aspect of your life. A small statue, a framed picture, or a beautiful stone.
Don't overload your desk with pictures of family - you will be distracted. But a couple of photos can sit in the middle and top right-hand corner.

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Feature Article

Feelin' Goooood

I've been reading Lynn Grabhorn's book "Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting". It's a wonderful book on the Law of Attraction. It's an easy read and the message is simple. Everything in your life you have attracted to you. Period. It makes a lot of sense to me and is in harmony with my personal beliefs on the subject.

Her four-step strategy is quite simple:

Identify what you DON'T want.
From that, identify what you DO want.
Get into the feeling place of what you want.
Expect, listen, and allow it to happen

There are three important points that I've gotten so far and I wanted to share them with you.

It's OK to Want.
The first point has to do with the fact that it is OK to want. Wanting has gotten a bad rap over the years. Or somehow, we've been made to feel that there is something bad about us if we want more than we have. As soon as a thought of 'wanting' crosses our mind, we go into a denial, that we didn't 'really' mean it. We know we're lucky to have what we have. A lot of people have less. All of this is true. And it's still okay to want more.

I think it is important for us to look at why we want things. If you do that, I think you'll find there are very few (if any) things you want for the sake of having them. Most of what we want is to bring us some feeling: security, joy, peace. I believe that God wants the very best for us. And these are some of the very best feelings there are. Wanting came easy to us as children. Somewhere along the line, we learned it was bad and so we censor ourselves. So, go ahead and feel free to want again
Some DO Wants are Really DON'T Wants
This hadn't struck me quite so forcibly before. Some of my wants are really "Don't" wants. For example, when I say "I want to be healthy", I am really saying "I don't want to be sick". Since the basic premise of attraction is that we get what we focus on, you can see that when I am saying I want to be healthy, I am really focusing on sickness and not health. Therefore, it's important to change it to something that really FEELS good when I say it. For that reason, I've changed my 'healthy' want to "I want to feel vibrantly alive, full of energy and joy in every cell of my being". Now THAT makes me

feel great! The combination of the high energy and the proper focus (vibrant aliveness) can't help but allow me to attract this into my life.

A good test for your wants is to again ask WHY? If you're response doesn't bring an immediate smile to your face, you may need to change the wording. Try it a few times and I know you'll see what I mean.
Feeling 'ok' isn't good enough!
It's very important to have joy-full thoughts, but it's even more important to have joy-full feelings. I've always known that the Universe responds to the strongest emotion. That is, if I say 100 times in a monotone "I want a reserve of money", but I say once, steeped in fear "I'm afraid I can't handle lots of money", the Universe will respond to the fear, the strongest emotion and we won't have to worry about handling that reserve of money!. But the idea that feeling 'ok' isn't good enough takes that concept to a new level. Not being in fear, but not being in joy either, brings me more of the same. I may not get the bad things that fear and worry might bring but I'm not attracting anything positive either.

I'm finding that most of us need some help getting in that 'joy-full' feeling space. Here is a brief exercise to help you get started.

Start with a blank piece of paper (letter size)
Write "Things that Make Me Feel Goooood" on the top
Close your eyes. Follow your breath for three long, deep breaths. When you exhale, really expel the air.
Open your eyes and ask the question, what memories make me feel good?
Start to write. Write until you can't think of anything.
Take another deep breath.
Read the list. Notice how your energy starts lifting. You'll notice that you'll think of a few more things. Write those down.
Keep going until you have at least a full page.
Whenever you notice that your energy level is not at the top gauge of "Joy-Full", take a few moments and read through your list.
Note: I have found with a few of my clients that there may be one single memory that is so joyous they don't need to make a list. Just remembering that one thing can bring them back to joy. It might be the day they got married, the birth of their kids, or some other life-changing event. If you've got one of those, you're golden!

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Related Quotes

"Enjoyment is not a goal, it is a feeling that accompanies important ongoing activity." - Paul Goodman

"Our feelings are our most genuine paths to knowledge." - Audre Lord

"No opera plot can be sensible, for people do not sing when they are feeling sensible." -- Wystan Hugh Auden

"Think and feel yourself there! To achieve any aim in life, you need to project the end-result. Think of the elation, the satisfaction, the joy! Carrying the ecstatic feeling will bring the desired goal into view." -- Grace Speare

Principles of Attraction

Attraction is the ability to consistently draw the best things in life towards you: opportunities, strong finances, rewarding relationships, whatever you define as 'the best things'. Additionally, it means to draw them forth effortlessly, without striving, scuffling or struggling.

Thomas J. Leonard has developed 28 Principles of Attraction in his book "The Portable Coach". (Visit Amazon.Com) .

Each newsletter I will take one principle and highlight its key points. For a pdf version of all 28 principles, email attraction04@touchpointcoaching.com .

I have created a page out on the website that takes all of the Principles, with the clarification and key points I have written for each of them. It will always be updated up til the last newsletter! That is, Principles 1-12 are there now, Principles 1-15 are there now. You can see it here: Atraction Plus!

Principle #16: SHOW OTHERS HOW TO PLEASE YOU
Don't make them guess.

CLARIFICATION

This is fairly self-explanatory. There are two parts, however. The first is to let people know (by telling them) what makes you happiest, what you WANT from them. The second is to be crystal clear about what you NEED from them. They are very different, but both are important to this principle.

KEY POINTS

Request vs Expect. When you request, you ask for things, directly and specifically. When you expect, you hope for something but say nothing. Or worse, you give vague hints.
Specific vs General. Asking for long-stemmed red roses with baby's breath in a crystal vase on Friday is specific. Saying "Get me some flowers, honey" is general. Being specific makes it easy for the other person to please you exactly.
Showing people what you want is even more specific (and more powerful) than telling them.
Tell people what you need from them before it becomes a problem. The simple act of stating your needs reveals how important they are to you. Most people will want to respond to you.
Let people know (by telling them) what they can do that will cause you to adore them. (I love this one!) Assuming you want to adore and fully enjoy someone, and they want to be adored and enjoyed, they'll be open to learning how to make the magic happen.

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