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Good. Better. Best. Which self do you want to be?
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In joy, peace and gratitude,
Louise
"If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail." --- Abraham Maslow
Thanks to Heidi Wendell who wrote the following about last issue's 'Keep it
Simple", Napoleon Hill's Self-Confidence formula from his 1937 classic
"Think and Grow Rich".
The first section of the formula went like this:
I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my definite purpose
in life; therefore, I DEMAND of myself persistent, continuous action toward
its attainment, and I here and now promise to render such action
On this topic, Heidi writes:
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First, let me say that I enjoyed your newsletter & appreciated the
reminders!!!
Only one suggestion: To me, there is more power in the words I CHOOSE versus
I DEMAND. Try it.
Demands are heavy and oppressive. Often our psyche meets demands with
resistance, either at a conscious or unconscious level. Choices, on the
other hand, come from a clean, free, empowering space.
Research has shown that self-esteem increases as one feels more in control
of his/her own life. To do something from choice is exhibiting self-control
from a very powerful state of being.
That's all. Learning & applying choice vs. "have to's" in my life has been a
sigh of relief. And, now, every "moment" I "choose" what to do knowing that,
really, there is nothing that I "have to" (a demand) do...
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Heidi's email brings out an important point, above and beyond the power of
choice over ultimatum (which is a personal preference of mine as well). When
we read something that strikes a chord, or ALMOST strikes a chord, it's
important to look at where it doesn't work for you. Once you see where it
doesn't work (as the word 'demand' set off red flags for Heidi), then CHANGE
IT! Make it your own. Each individual's path is different, how we 'get'
things is different' and it is important to 'personalize' what we learn.
While I was quoting from the book, and therefore had to include the entire
formula 'as-is', it would be a great shame to let one word stop us from
using such a great tool. Next time you come up with something that 'almost'
works for you, don't dismiss the entire concept. MAKE it work for you!
Have you ever thought about what motivates you? What gets - and keeps - you
going? When we know WHY we do something, we can use that information to
accomplish more. Knowing what motivates us will help us achieve our goals,
both personal and professional.
No matter what we do for a living, or where we do it, what motivates us can
be found in the following list. Many of us believe that the only reason we
work is money. Although there is no question that money, or what it buys
(rent, food, etcetera) is a prime motivator, money alone does not create the
sense of fulfillment and accomplishment that many of us are seeking.
Prioritize the following motivators for yourself. Once you've identified
what works for you, share it with your boss. If you're the boss, ask your
reports to prioritize their motivators. Whether you're the boss, the
employee, or it's just you (like a work-at-home mom or a solopreneur), this
is very important information to know about yourself.
INDEPENDENCE: The freedom to run your business activities as you wish and to
be independent of superiors; the opportunity to "be your own boss".
Do you ever feel restricted?, Do you feel overcome in rules and red tape?,
Do you often feel in disagreement with superiors?
RECOGNITION: The tangible rewards you get for doing a job well, such as
being singled out in a publication or speech.
How important is winning to you?, How do you feel when others get
recognition?, Do you go out of your way to win awards?
ACHIEVEMENT: The feeling that you get from successfully accomplishing a
job...overcoming obstacles and obtaining goals.
Is your performance relative to your effort?, How do you feel when you have
completed a task?, What kind of goals do you set for yourself?.
LEISURE TIME: The amount of time that you have free to use as you wish and
the extent of enjoyment that you get from the use of that time.
Do you find yourself neglecting things?, Have you postponed a desired
activity?, Do you really enjoy your leisure me?
POWER: The sense of control that you feel you have over your destiny and the
destiny of others...your feelings of influence to direct the behavior of
others.
Do you feel you have control over your destiny?, Do people tend to lean
on you, ask your approval?, Do you find yourself doing things you'd rather
not do?
PRESTIGE: The respect accorded you by your peers and by business or
community associates...how others feel that you compare with your peers.
Is prestige important to you?, Do others tend to hold you in esteem?, Do you
find yourself doing things to gain esteem?
MONEY: The amount of personal financial income provided by your job.
Are you proud of what you earn?, Do you tend to talk about money or how you
spend, save, or invest it?
PRESSURE: The constant feeling or need to show continuing improvement in the
performance of your job.
Do you feel guilty about not exerting enough effort?, Do you continually
feel that you must do more?, Do you want continual motivation from
superiors?
SELF ESTEEM: Your feeling of self-worth...how you feet you compare with your
peers.
Are you confident that you do as well as you can?, Do you feel guilty about
poor performance?, Are you satisfied with your performance?
FAMILY LIFE: The amount and quality of activities that you engage in with
your family.
Do you spend enough time with your family?, Is time meaningful when with
them?, Do they talk about the time that you spend with them?
SECURITY: The certainty that you feel of maintaining your position...the
feeling that tomorrow will be at least as good as today.
Is job security important to you?, Are you afraid to try something new?, Do
you do things that tend to secure your job?
PERSONAL GROWTH: The feeling of growing as an individual or becoming more
competent, more efficient - a better person.
Do you think that you have grown over the past year?, Do you do specific
things that result in improvement?, Do you have plans for doing more?
(Note: This list was first compiled by LIMRA International - a worldwide
association providing research, consulting and other services to insurance
and financial services companies worldwide and is focused on motivation in
the work area.)
"Strong lives are motivated by dynamic purposes." -- Kenneth Hildebrand
"Money was never a big motivation for me, except as a way to keep score. The
real excitement is playing the game." - Donald Trump
"The only lifelong, reliable motivations are those that come from within,
and one of the strongest of those is the joy and pride that grow from
knowing that you've just done something as well as you can do it." -- Lloyd
Dobens and Clare Crawford-Mason
Have you ever stayed in a relationship, a job, a friendship, or a residence
too long, hoping that things would improve? I have done all of the above.
Many times, though, the situation never improves and actually gets worse.
Someone once said, "Life leaves clues." Life drops hints that you've learned
as much in that experience as you can, and it's time to move on. Feeling
constricted, trapped or suffocated are signals that you need to expand. And
sometimes that means leaving the circumstances causing these feelings.
Leaving a condition that is no longer serving you is different from running
from a difficult situation in an attempt to avoid the mental/emotional cause
of it. When a person tries to escape from what is uncomfortable, without
addressing the reason they attracted it in the first place, they tend to
fall into a similar situation or worse.
But when you've outgrown a situation, that situation itself tries to push
you out. It begins to leave you. You might get fired, or not get the
promotion you expected. Or the relationship deteriorates. If you're like me,
and don't easily embrace change, you might tend to hold tightly onto the
familiar. Even though you become more and more uncomfortable, and
circumstances are trying to push you out of the door, you resist leaving.
I once had a friend with whom I no longer had anything in common. Whenever
we were together, there was tension in the air. I wanted to continue the
relationship, hoping it would improve, even though we'd grown in different
directions. The tension increased until she finally found an excuse to end
the friendship. In retrospect, I realized that the friendship had actually
been over for months. The clues for me were the tension, and how she avoided
talking to me. For awhile, I was hurt. Now, years later, I'm grateful to
her. She recognized, whether consciously or unconsciously, that we'd gone as
far down that road together as we could.
The challenge is to read the clues correctly. When you're feeling like Life
is pushing you out of a situation that you're holding onto, it's time to
make the change. The Universe undoubtedly has something better in Mind for
you. But you have to be willing to release the old before the new condition
can manifest.
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Here is an affirmation to use in these situations:
Since I am always Divinely Guided, I correctly read the clues that Life
leaves for me. I recognize the signs that tell me that it's time to move on.
When I realize that I've outgrown a situation, I gracefully release the old
conditions. I know that the Universe has something wonderful in store for
me. I bless the old situation and gratefully accept the new.
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Copyright (c) 2002 Linda Ann Stewart
Linda-Ann Stewart is a nationally known hypnotherapist, writer, and workshop
facilitator with over twenty-five years background in metaphysics. On her
website at www.cedarfire.com , she offers personal development
articles, affirmations, online spiritual growth courses, audiotapes, and a
free newsletter. She can be reached at linda-ann@cedarfire.com
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whatever you define as 'the best things'. Additionally, it means to draw
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A great life is attractive; a lifestyle is usually seductive.
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I believe the major distinction between a "life" and a "lifestyle" is in the "why" of it. Are you doing/living something because of how it makes you feel? Or because of how it will look to others? The first is a life. The second is a lifestyle.
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