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The 3-Minute Coach

February 1, 2002, Issue #32
Personal Operating Principles

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Happy February! I can't believe how quickly time is flying by. I hope you'll be able to take a breath and enjoy this issue of the 3MC. Please let me know if you're enjoying it or if you'd like to see something specific.

Special welcome to New Guinea and Viet Nam, bringing us to 7008 readers in 68 countries.

In joy, peace and gratitude,

Louise

Food for Thought

"In a full heart there is room for everything, and in an empty heart there is room for nothing." --- Antonio Porchia

Keep It Simple

Trying is Dying

How many times do you find yourself saying "I'll try to do that". What is it that you are really saying? Read these two statements side by side and pay attention to the energy around each of them.

1. I'll try to do that.
2. I'll do that.

The second one is a commitment, both to yourself and others. The "trying" is actually a pre-fabricated excuse for not succeeding. Think back over the times you do use it. How often have you not even made the attempt at something if you started by 'trying' to do it?

Somewhere along the line, I heard the phrase "trying is dying" and it really stuck with me. Remember the wisdom of Yoda: "Do, or do not. There is no try."

Feature Article

Top Ten Principles to Live By - Plus 1

Many years ago, inspired by Steven Covey's "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" I created a personal mission statement. In order to fulfill that mission, I also developed a set of 'Operating Principles'. I think of these operating principles as the yardsticks by which I know how closely I am living that mission. Although these are very personal, I choose to share them hoping to inspire you to develop your own.

I RECOGNIZE GOD IN EVERYONE.
I unconditionally love and accept others, and in so doing I unconditionally love and accept God and myself. I respect, without judgment or reservation, the beliefs and decisions of others as well as their right to those beliefs and decisions.
I WALK WHAT I TALK.
All of my actions are in harmony with my innermost beliefs and values. I keep all commitments I make to myself and others.
I SEEK EXCELLENCE IN ALL I DO.
I approach every aspect of my life with the sincere desire to do the very best I can, using the appropriate combination of skills, talents and resources to produce superior results.
I INSPIRE THROUGH EXAMPLE.
I use all of the love, talent and wisdom within me to maximize my potential and to experience life as a rich tapestry, full of love, joy, wonder, abundance and mystery.
I EMPOWER THROUGH LOVE.
I use all the love, talent and wisdom within me to serve others by helping them uncover the wisdom, strength and power within themselves. I give each person what they need in whatever form they are most comfortable receiving it. I am able to impact every-larger groups of people while maintaining time and space for me.
I ALONE AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY LIFE.
I gracefully accept the responsibility for everything present in my life today and graciously claim the power to create everything in my life tomorrow. I employ my imagination, conscience, independent will and self-awareness to create a joyful, harmonious and integrated life. I recognize my greatest power as being the freedom to choose, in every situation. I consciously, proactively determine the best alternative and most appropriate response, basing my decisions on conscience educated by principles.
I EMBRACE THE JOURNEY.
I interpret all of life's experiences as opportunities for learning, growth and contribution. I choose to move without faltering on an upward spiral of growth and change, improving continuously. I desire at all times to be free of limitation.
I HONOR MY SPIRITUAL SELF.
I am a clear and open channel for God's divine peace, love and light. I carry the inner peace of being connected to God's abundance and energy into every moment of my life.
I HONOR MY PHYSICAL SELF.
I am a radiant expression of God. I am perfectly attuned to the needs of my body and joyously respond to those needs. I nurture myself with healthy food, rest, exercise and relaxation. My life is full of grace, comfort and cleanliness. I enjoy financial security. I recognize that material abundance is a manifestation of the richness of my true self and does not represent a choice between having and being.
I HONOR MY EMOTIONAL SELF.
In all relationships, I freely give and graciously receive love, nurturing and support. Honesty is the cornerstone of all my relationships. I enjoy a warm, loving relationship with a principle-centered person who cherishes me. Our relationship is based on sharing, and choosing to share, our lives, our time and our space with each other.
I HONOR MY MENTAL SELF.
I seek to constantly expand my knowledge and awareness of life by regular exposure to new thoughts, ideas, people and places. I explore the world, joyously and without fear.

Related Quotes

"Back of every noble life there are principles that have fashioned it." -- George Lorimer

"It is easier to fight for one's principles than to live up to them." -- Alfred Adler

"The strongest principle of growth lies in human choice." - George Elliot

"A thing moderately good is not so good as it ought to be. Moderation in temper is always a virtue; but moderation in principle is always a vice." - Thomas Paine

"Peace won by the compromise of principles is a short-lived achievement." -- Unknown

Principles of Attraction

Attraction is the ability to consistently draw the best things in life towards you: opportunities, strong finances, rewarding relationships, whatever you define as 'the best things'. Additionally, it means to draw them forth effortlessly, without striving, scuffling or struggling.

Thomas J. Leonard has developed 28 Principles of Attraction in his book "The Portable Coach". (Visit Amazon.Com) .

Each newsletter I will take one principle and highlight its key points. For a pdf version of all 28 principles, email attraction04@touchpointcoaching.com .

Principle #2: UNHOOK YOURSELF FROM THE FUTURE
Attraction works in the present. Not in the future.

CLARIFICATION

This does not mean don't plan for the future or don't have a vision or goals. It means that once you have defined where you want to go, get back and live in the present. The future is created with each choice you make now. If you are living in the future, you're not paying attention to the choices you make now. This seldom results in the future you are looking for.

KEY POINTS

Pay attention to your feelings. If you're feeling guilt, you're living in the past. If you're feeling fear or worry, you're living in the future.
Make the journey as important as the destination.
If you find yourself drifting away from the present, gently bring yourself back by saying something like "This moment is about [xxx ex: writing this newsletter.] I'll think about or deal with that at the appropriate time." The more often you bring yourself back to the present, the easier it becomes to STAY in the present.
Rapid assimilation of new ideas, not tenacious loyalty to old plans, is what makes the future arrive magnificently. It is far better to become an in-the-moment learner than an expert planner. Adaptability is the master skill. Embrace it.
Stop using If/When formulas. They usually indicate living in the future (or sometimes the past). For example, "When I lose weight, then I will have more energy." This leads you to believe that what you want is conditional or hinges on some thing, event or person. It is much better to reframe such statements into something like "I feel really, really good about losing weight." Can you see how it brings you back to the present and energizes the statement? Start listening for those If/When statements and change them pronto!

This-N-That

Thanks to Pegeen Klein, this is the best belly laugh I've had in a VERY long time. Here's a few excerpts from "Answers to a 6th Grade History Test" that I recently received.

Moses led the Hebrew slaves to the Red Sea where they made unleavened bread, which is bread made without any ingredients. Moses went up on Mount Cyanide to get the ten commandments. He died before he ever reached Canada.
The Greeks were a highly sculptured people, and without them we wouldn't have history. The Greeks also had myths. A myth is a female moth.
The greatest writer of the Renaissance was William Shakespeare. He was born in the year 1564, supposedly on his birthday. He never made much money and is famous only because of his plays. He wrote tragedies, comedies, and hysterectomies, all in Islamic pentameter. Romeo and Juliet are an example of a heroic couple. Romeo's last wish was to be laid by Juliet.
Abraham Lincoln became America's greatest Precedent. Lincoln's mother died in infancy, and he was born in a log cabin which he built with his own hands. Abraham Lincoln freed the slaves by signing the Emasculation Proclamation. On the night of April 14, 1865, Lincoln went to the theater and got shot in his seat by one of the actors in a moving picture show. They believe the assinator was John Wilkes Booth, a supposingly insane actor. This ruined Booth's career.
The nineteenth century was a time of a great many thoughts and inventions. People stopped reproducing by hand and started reproducing by machine. The invention of the steamboat caused a network of rivers to spring up. Cyrus McCormick invented the McCormick raper, which did the work of a hundred men. Louis Pasteur discovered a cure for rabbits. Charles Darwin was a naturalist who wrote the Organ of the Species. Madman Curie discovered the radio. And Karl Marx became one of the Marx Brothers.

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