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July 29, 2010 - Issue #107
The Key to Emotional Balance

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Feature Article

The Key to Emotional Balance

Very often, when people are focused on becoming their best self and living their best life, they believe that the only way to reach their goals is to stay emotion-free. Because of this, they fight down any urge towards expressing emotion. We might think this isn't a bad idea for negative emotions, but the self that controls this action knows that the only way to stop negative emotions is to stop all emotions. This is a very unhealthy situation.

When one starts to feel guilty when a negative emotion 'escapes', it is very helpful to remember my favorite quote, by Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, "We are not human beings on a spiritual journey. We are spiritual beings on a human journey." To me, that quote means that we are not supposed to stifle our feelings in the hopes of being more 'saintly'. We are supposed to achieve spiritual fulfillment by living our human existence to the max, exploring all of our feelings on this earthly journey. As strange as it may sound, it's the only way to get where we want to go. It's the only true way of becoming our best self!

I first became aware of this lesson many years ago, when a friend kept telling everyone proudly that he never got angry. The more I thought about this, the more true I thought it was. He never did "get" angry, but only because he was angry all the time, which showed up in many passive aggressive activities. This was a valuable lesson as it taught me that, no matter how hard we try, the only real release from negative emotions is to express them. The best thing we can do for ourselves when feeling, angry, disappointed, mad, peeved, hurt, etc. is to allow ourselves to feel it.

I realize that the idea of expressing these emotions will scare some people. For the most part, we feel the emotion so intensely we are afraid that if we express it, it will take over and consume us, that we will become unbearable monsters that are unable to be stopped. I certainly recognize that fear, but the truth is that the best way to let go of an emotion is to let it out. This will surprise many people but I recommend you try it. To ease some fears, set a kitchen timer for 5 minutes. Then, alone or with another, start expressing that anger or other emotion. Just keep going until you run out of steam. The first thing that will amaze you is that you still have time to go until the 5 minutes are up. The second thing that will amaze you is that there is a hole where that negative emotion used to live. I hope you'll give this a try. You'll quickly experience the reality of the situation: that you are stronger than any emotion you feel.

As you become comfortable with expressing your negative feelings, you will soon realize that it doesn't really matter how often you get angry (etc.). It only matters how long you stay there! Here's to have the shortest tantrums possible!

Related Quotes

"You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel.” " -- Unknown

"Feelings are not supposed to be logical. Dangerous is the man who has rationalized his emotions." -- David Borenstein

"A cat has absolute emotional honesty: human beings, for one reason or another, may hide their feelings, but a cat does not." -- Ernest Hemingway

"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." -- Buddha

"Try as much as possible to be wholly alive, with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell and when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough." -- William Saroyan

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July 29, 2010 - Issue #107The Key to Emotional Balance