I was recently talking to a client who is interested in developing a new relationship. He was telling me about a date he had with a widow who later told him she wasn’t ready for an intimate relationship.

Since he’s actively searching for someone and at a point in his life when he’s ready to be in a commited relationship, he told me that he wasn’t going to pursue a friendship with this woman.

While I understand his motivation for not wanting to ‘waste’ time, I suggested he make plans to have lunch with her again, as he would if she were a male friend — just lunch, great conversation (which he told me he’d enjoyed) and no expectations.

While I think it’s always good to have a nice-sized circle of my friends, my reasoning was in support of his goals. The reality is, for men, that the men you know don’t generally know as many women as the women you know do. Therefore, if you want a relationship with a woman, hang out with women you enjoy spending time with and start meeting her friends.

Obviously, the reverse is true for women.

Hope you’ll take this advice to heart. Let me know how it works for you!

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