We’ve all had them… those AHA! moments when some piece of life-changing knowledge takes place. We suddenly realize (well, not so ’suddenly’ as a rule!) that something that happened many years ago is still impacting us today. And with that realization comes freedom: freedom from the tyranny of the past; freedom to be truly present today, without guilt or fear; freedom to move into our future with joy and the power to create the reality we want.

Those are wonderful, exciting moments. It feels like you were just hit by a lightning bolt, and you were. However, that lightening bolt turns into a gentle rain that sends the new awareness into all aspects of your life.

Knowledge doesn’t happen in a silo. You can’t learn something that impacts your intimate relationships and not have its gentle touch impact your professional life as well. You can’t learn to accept support at work without allowing others to help you in all areas of your life. It just doesn’t work that way.

Sometimes, when a client has an aha! moment that comes out of a discussion of one area of their life, during closing they’ll say something like “That was great, next time let’s talk about finding a mate.” It’s sometimes hard to convince them that we just did! Even when it’s not immediately obvious, all learning impacts all other areas of our life.

I believe that’s true because many of the challenges we face in life are, in reality, additional opportunities to work through major life lessons. If your parents didn’t support you emotionally, you will encounter many others in your life who you think will give you support, but who disappoint you as well.

However, their actual role in your life is to help you work through that early experience. The first step is to forgive your parents, but the important liberating step is to understand how their behavior all those years ago shaped who you are today. Not the negative part, but a part or quality you are actually proud of. Once you can make that connection, you are well on your way to being grateful to those people, and THAT is total freedom from the past.

Just a note: becoming free from the past isn’t absolving people who did hurt you! They have to come to terms with their own behavior. The reason to do this work is for YOU, to free you from the negative experiences of the past so that you can create a wonderful tomorrow.

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